Whether it be their inability to get with women, to make friends, or just that they re always insecure and unhappy. It wasn t until I started my business and got it going that things began to turn around again.ģ A lot of men are endlessly frustrated with aspects of their lives. And not only that, but I became pretty down and didn t feel good about myself anymore. Suddenly the ladies had no interest in me. Then I graduated, loafed around, held a few part time jobs and ended up broke and living on my friend s couch for a while. I even felt it myself back in In college I had been doing great with women. Often despite the fact he was goodlooking and a cool guy.
Back when I was coaching men in person regularly on how to be better with women, every time I worked with a guy who was either unemployed and/or lived at home with his parents and/or hated his job, he inevitably would do terribly with women. I didn t have to look far to realize this either. They never learn to assert themselves, they remain woefully unaware of their emotional realities and their personal relationships suffer, particularly those with women. As a result, they never cultivate the independence and self-esteem that comes with following their purpose. Boys growing up without clear roles to fill, without obvious purposes to fill, meander through their early life reacting and following whatever is put before them. It s my opinion that this greatly affects the overall psychology of the male population. There have been a number of major societal shifts in the past few decades feminism, the information economy, more broken homes and fewer marriages men greatly lack that clear vision and purpose they were once given in their lives.
Writers and thinkers from David Deida to Camille Paglia to Sigmund Freud himself have commented on how important it is to a man s identity and self-esteem that he has a clear life mission and that he s consistently working towards it. And this report will hopefully help you fix it. If the answer isn t an immediate, WhatĢ I m doing now, then something s wrong. Let s start things off with a simple question: If you could do anything without chance of failure, and without constraints of time and money, what would you do? This is the primary question. It then inspired a whole branch of therapy known as logotherapy. And if not, why not? This may sound like a bunch of fluff, but its the exact questioning of purpose and legacy that helped renown psychiatrist Viktor Frankl survive a Nazi concentration camp.
Is there a message attached to your existence. If you died tomorrow, how would people remember you? That you were a nice guy who was nice to have a few laughs with? Or did you stand for something? Did you affect people s lives? Did you change things. Sometimes we have a subset of values that we pay heed to, but few of us ever ask ourselves What is the message that my life is sending to the world? That may sound pretty deep and heady, but it s a question of your legacy.
1 The Life Purpose Guide Copyright Mark Manson, 2013 What is your life purpose and who cares, anyway? When most of us do something, when most of us make life decisions, we rarely make them past pursuing what feels good or what wins us the most approval from others.